It’s that time of year when our schedules get hectic and chaotic and I have an intense need to cram traditions and family time in. 3 of my kiddos are my step children and we are struggling with balancing family obligations for his side my side and their side. All I really want are moments….baking cookies together, looking at Christmas lights, singing, wrapping presents etc. None of which it should be hard to find but Christmas eve has been our time as a family together I get the kids new pajamas and hot chocolate and we watch a Christmas movie and bake cookies for santa. Their mother hasn’t been overly involved in their lives in the time my husband and I have been together so it hasn’t been difficult to make this happen. She is becoming more and more involved in their lives which I am truly happy and thankful for BUT my selfishness is coming out….I want these few hours as a family I want a tradition that is ours. The day after Thanksgiving my sweetie texted her to let her know we would work with their holiday plans all we asked for was Christmas eve, at the time they didn’t have a plan now Christmas eve is when she wants them. Dont get me wrong I want them to have their time with their mother and that side of their family I just get tired of having my plans stepped on. We comprised since that is the night her side of the family has chosen as their gift exchange so they go from 6-8. So maybe when we pick them up we see lights on the way home. Maybe we bake premade cookies instead of from scratch. And if I’m lucky maybe we squeeze in the cartoon Grinch instead of a full length movie. Maybe just maybe we can make it all work. I don’t know what happens next year or the year after that but for this year I refuse to let a conflict of time ruin my traditions with my family. Big smile, deep breath, plan the hell out of it to make it all happen!
Archives for December 2015
I am struggling to stay focused. Again. I used to be the person everybody expected and relied on to be the one to remember everything. I have no idea what happened. I mean I got pregnant. I had a baby. I am now raising a toddler. Is this pregnancy brain? No clue. I forgot to brush my teeth the other day, I forget to go to the grocery store, I missed a court date I feel like I am losing my mind! Before smart phones I carried around a planner and it held my life in its spiral pages. Since smartphones and all of the digital upgrades I now keep everything in a calender on my phone. I don’t think it’s working maybe I need to try going back to the planner and if that doesn’t work maybe hire a personal assistant to keep up with this stuff for me. I’m off to talk to my accountant (husband, and checkbook) to see if I can afford that!